Life sure does change over time; daily actually. The life that I am living today is nothing of what I had dreamed of over twenty years ago. I don't live in the big white country house with a wrap around porch. There are no horses in the pasture that I obviously do not have. My veterinarian practice does not exist as well. My bank account does not have the thousand of dollars that I imagined; just a lot of zeros. In my beautiful dreams that I use to draw and right about, I left something very important out of them. It is so crucial to being able to enjoy those wonderful things and yet so many of us do not plan this thing. They do not plan ways to achieve it.
HAPPINESS
So many of us take it for granted. Maybe we never truly new what actual happiness was. We would feel those natural highs from a great day with friends or maybe after purchasing a fabulous pair of shoes. However, happiness was a luxury. Happiness was something you read about in fairy tales as the prince on his white horse rode of with his beloved princess. Why did we not want to be happy?
We wanted wealth.
We wanted good looks.
We wanted grand homes and grand cars.
We wanted love.
We wanted children.
We wanted security.
We wanted to live a long life.
Where is the happiness?
Do I put to much into being happy? I don't think so. It is what I want for my family and for my friends.
At a time in my OLD AGE where happiness is of great importance for me and my children, I pray often that as they find their way into adulthood, that I am teaching them all they need to find happiness within themselves. It is important to me to give them wings to fly and not to hinder them with their limitations. Each one of my children have challenges. Some are worse than others and there are other children that fight much larger battles than my own children do. With that being said, I try with all that I am to give them power with in themselves and not constantly remind them of what they can not or should not do. I also do not make excuses for them due to their individual challenges. As much as I love my children. I want them to have independence from me. Why you ask? In order for my children to be happy, it MUST come from within themselves. I can not do that for them and no one else can either. If I make them dependent upon me, they will never feel satisfaction and happiness of their own accomplishments. If I am not here (God forbid) then they will search for happiness and self worth from others instead of knowing they are capable of it themselves.
Please understand that I hope that my children have dreams. I want them to chase them. I just pray that they find self worth and happiness before searching for it in "things" or other people. I did that myself for a long time.
I watch from afar those living lives where happiness is an after thought. Happiness becomes a lost want, a lost need to them.
There are people that try to find happiness from someone else because they did not learn that it is only themselves that can make it happen. When you see people that are unhappy, they tend to do one or the other by making others feel miserable so they feel better or they are constantly looking for the next person to be the one to make them happy. Not a healthy way to live. Been there, got a t shirt.
Once they find happiness within themselves, then they will be able to be happy with others.
Happiness is not just words in a song or part of a fairy tale ending. It is something that we should be teaching our children and ourselves.
PS: We may not always feel happy, like singing and dancing but being happy in general is so very important to work on.
Hope you get your HAPPY on!
