Know When To Hold Them and Know When To Fold Them.

There was a good old Kenny Rogers song called "Know When To Hold Them and Know When To Fold Them."  I always loved this song growing up even though I was not a country music fan until the last ten years of my life.  It could of been my mother's influence.  She would play such songs when my Daddy was traveling and they were at odds with one another.

My question is when to you know.  When do you stand your ground and fight for what you believe in?  Also, when do you step back, fold in and give in to what someone else wants.  Whether you understand what they are saying or not isn't it.  It is the fact that you know that it just isn't right for you.

The worse is when you want to make that person happy.  You may already feel that you don't have the closeness that you want with that person already.  By standing your ground, you may just push that person into another galaxy.  Yes, that is a bit extreme but to you it may just feel that far apart.

When do you stop giving up things that you want to be a part of or believe in?  What will that cost be to you and those that you love?  

Do you make a list?  The Pros verses the Cons.  The benefits verses the issues.  To bend or not.  To give in or fight.  To hold them or fold them.

I want to keep the peace.  I do not care for confrontation.  I try to avoid that route at all cost.  Yes, I am capable of it but in my "golden years" have decided that life is too short to argue my way through life.  "Make love not war" is so much more my preference.  

Type A personality is not me.  I just don't fly that way.  I am a great leader but don't mind handing over the reins to someone  I trust.  However, there are times those people need to let me have them back.  As humans, God did not make us perfect.  We each have our own attributes that we are gifted at and we are unique for them.  I do not excel at everything but appreciate when someone else does.  That is why we are paired with people from our spouses, to friends, to siblings, and so on.  Example would be that I am a pretty good cook.  My husband doesn't mind dishes.  That is a good team.  Another Example, my mother is great at shopping for the kids' clothes, I am have the money to give her.  That is a great team effort.

All this rambling is great but I am still stuck with whether to fold or hold them.  Are my dreams important enough to upset another's aspirations  over?  When and how do I make that choice???

Fiddle. Fiddle. Fiddle.